So sad to hear about your Dad .. it is his loss not yours remember that. I had a beautiful Dad, think Caractacus Potts in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang! Just like him, restored veteran cars lifelong, eccentric, dry wit and both generous and clever. He used to say the sound of an engine was music to his ears. He called me Suska lifelong, never Suzanne. He would have had plenty to say about vaccines and the govt 😊. All I can say Abi is what you lacked in a Dad you more than gained in your husband Terry. I feel very vulnerable without my Dad, my brother Chris and Nick they protected me lifelong. You never know how lucky you are until it’s gone.
On a lighter note your Angela ginger growler Raynor accent is just off the scale 😂. Great pod I’m enjoying the stories of Father Alexander.
I get you Abi. I tried twice to have a reconciliation with my father but failed on both occasions. Basically he was a selfish bastard who was only interested in himself and chasing women! You had a normal childhood with your parents so it must be more difficult for you, after the reconciliation with your father, that he has reverted back to his old ways. I never met my father until I was 15 years so I never had the bond that happens from childhood. My father died 5 years ago, well into his 80s, he requested that I not attend his funeral.
Half way through but I can so relate to this. My wonderful dad sadly passed away 18 years ago today, age 60. I miss him terribly, feels like yesterday. I am now left with my mother, who has never "had my back" and instead constantly criticises everything I do. She's bitter and twisted, immature and jealous. I think she was always envious of how close my dad and I were. I now live in a cycle of digs, arguments, fall outs and speaking again (ie tolerating her). It's exhausting trying to maintain a relationship with someone I have little or no feelings for. She falls out with all around her but can't see that she is the common denominator and blames everyone else. I am sorry for you for the loss of Terry, like you I found my lovely husband who supports me and fills a void and I couldn't bear it without him.
On a more happier note, I am so pleased you are enjoying David's book. I sent him last week's Meaningful Wednesday, he was thrilled. I will send him this too. Take care Abi, have a good day 🥰 xx
Oh Sam, so sorry to hear about your lovely dad and difficult with your mum. Life is bloody hard to navigate. It really helps to have such wise, inquisitive people on here.
Delighted to hear about David’s reaction! His book is full of wisdom and insight. I look forward to reading more. 🙏
Yes, I do too Trudi. I think it was around Christmas 2 years ago. Abi spoke about the lovely time she spent with her dad and sister. I was so happy for Abi and it sounded like a new beginning in their relationship. Nothing as strange as family🤷♀️
My dad a very religions man didn't give a shit about me or my brother at an early age 2 & 7 he was in army moved on to another marriage, it doesn't bother me much as I had a lovely step dad , people are so complex selfish if they dont give a shit fuck them off not worth the energy xxxxxx
I am glad you had a lovely stepdad. The pain of not having a family who cared is always tucked away, when it should be obliterated. I wish that I had loving parents in my life but some things are not meant to be. We pick ourselves up and push forward.
Abs will listen to the pod soon. From what other people are saying, I can relate. I have not spoken to my entire family for decades. Severe, severe, childhood abuse. I do not talk about myself (I prefer to elevate others) but I did write my story here: https://vicparkpetition.substack.com/p/we-were-fearfully-and-wonderfully
I have just read the part about your family when you were growing up. It was totally horrific and how your extended family did not intervene I cannot comprehend. That you became a successful, loving adult is testimony to you alone. The 4 years of the covid shitshow has knocked us all for six. I have always been the type of person who has questioned everything in life even from when I was a child at school. Family and longtime friends who have dropped me for not taking the jab and not abiding by the ‘rules’ reignited my depression and I am still fighting it. Remember to have come this far we are stronger than we think and you will overcome x
Thanks Jan. If I really wrote about what happened and how bad the violence was no one would read my Substack again. I do not want to traumatise people. I am very lucky to be alive. I suppose the hardest part is that when I left the family no one from the large extended family ever checked up on me or cared about why I left. This always made me feel like I was at fault for what happened as a child, or that I deserved it. Actually, it still does. When I am stressed, even now decades later, my brain says: go back to your abusers. I realise that this is a trauma response because when we are under stress our brain seeks out the familiar.
Yes, I only write about certain parts of my life. If I gave the whole story people would probably think I was either a fantasist or completely crazy. I have enough problems with people who no longer speak to me because of my beliefs and calling out the covid, climate change & trans bs!
I have just read your complete SubStack article of December 2023 from this link. I resonate with so much that you write and feel a connection. Since the fake pandemic I have come across people who have now found God and also those that have renewed their faith. My faith has become stronger over the past 4 years and I find it a comfort.
Sorry to hear about your Dad. Guess even though very old he's still with it enough to do more than the bare minimum in terms of contact. My relationship with my grown up daughter went horribly wrong last year. She sent me a devasting and cruel letter that rubbished my politics (she's woke, doctor, vaccinated, gay) and lifestyle but far worse went back in time and made me feel I hadn't been a good Dad when she was a child. Always been fine with the gay thing but I've failed to embrace the alphabet mafia. Drove me very close to suicide last November. Although currently in NZ, she wants a reconciliation - something I can't currently square with what she put IN WRITING and the near fatal consequences.
Your post brought tears to my eyes. How cruel of your daughter, those hurtful words can never be taken back. I wonder why she wants a reconciliation now. I understand how you must be very wary of a reconciliation when you were so close to thinking about ending your life. I hope you are able to work things out with your daughter x
Another very poignant pod Abi.❤️Sorry to hear about your situation with your dad.It sounds like it could be due to the woman he is with....My lovely dad was Clodagh's and my best friend after mum died in 1985.He had some great girlfriends for years but then got serious with the worst sort of manipulative witch in 2004(She had been married 3 times already and 2 of the husbands were dead)We made a point of getting to see him every week inspite of her efforts to stop him seeing us.They finally married a year before he died in 2016.He'd had some mini strokes throughout 2015 and in the December of that year the psychopathic new wife insisted that he spend Christmas, miles away from us, with her daughter's family who don't even cook.Clodagh is a fantastic cook and he always loved his meals, Sunday's, Easter and Christmas at ours.It's so sad that he died the following May, 3 months after she got him to change his will too.These people do exist and, sadly, it has set us up to be so untrusting but, also, wise to the signs and who to avoid....I think you and your sister should just show up at his house and insist on having some time with him now.🤔🥰🥰
I hear you Catherine. My dad’s second wife got him to put everything he owned into her 3 kids names so that when he died my brother and I would receive nothing. There are some evil people out there.
It's so strange how such hideous women can manipulate lovely men who have a lot to offer. We know how they do it though, offering basic carnal pleasures. 😒
Abi, I just went on to Twitter this morning and found that someone is following me called ‘Prettier than Abi Roberts’ @abiroberts. Don’t know if it is male or female or if you have seen it. Why would anyone bother to open an account like that🤷♀️
My regular troll can’t leave me be. I would suggest everyone report and block as it’s against the rules to impersonate a real person on twitter. Thanks Jan 🙏
Well done, Trudi. Twatter has become a fast-moving river of sludge with the odd bit of gold floating in it. Even though it felt weird at first, I know I am so much better off not being on there! X
So sad to hear about your Dad .. it is his loss not yours remember that. I had a beautiful Dad, think Caractacus Potts in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang! Just like him, restored veteran cars lifelong, eccentric, dry wit and both generous and clever. He used to say the sound of an engine was music to his ears. He called me Suska lifelong, never Suzanne. He would have had plenty to say about vaccines and the govt 😊. All I can say Abi is what you lacked in a Dad you more than gained in your husband Terry. I feel very vulnerable without my Dad, my brother Chris and Nick they protected me lifelong. You never know how lucky you are until it’s gone.
On a lighter note your Angela ginger growler Raynor accent is just off the scale 😂. Great pod I’m enjoying the stories of Father Alexander.
Love to Lisa I hope she’s doing well xx ❤️
Such lovely words Suzanne 🙏
Your dad sounds amazing Suzanne.
Caractacus Potts ❤️
Much love to you Suzanne. Such a lovely post. 🙏❤️
More Angela coming… 😂
I get you Abi. I tried twice to have a reconciliation with my father but failed on both occasions. Basically he was a selfish bastard who was only interested in himself and chasing women! You had a normal childhood with your parents so it must be more difficult for you, after the reconciliation with your father, that he has reverted back to his old ways. I never met my father until I was 15 years so I never had the bond that happens from childhood. My father died 5 years ago, well into his 80s, he requested that I not attend his funeral.
I was thinking of you, Jan. It’s very painful, but as I say we have our own path to tread and we should make the best of it as we shuffle along it. ❤️
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Half way through but I can so relate to this. My wonderful dad sadly passed away 18 years ago today, age 60. I miss him terribly, feels like yesterday. I am now left with my mother, who has never "had my back" and instead constantly criticises everything I do. She's bitter and twisted, immature and jealous. I think she was always envious of how close my dad and I were. I now live in a cycle of digs, arguments, fall outs and speaking again (ie tolerating her). It's exhausting trying to maintain a relationship with someone I have little or no feelings for. She falls out with all around her but can't see that she is the common denominator and blames everyone else. I am sorry for you for the loss of Terry, like you I found my lovely husband who supports me and fills a void and I couldn't bear it without him.
On a more happier note, I am so pleased you are enjoying David's book. I sent him last week's Meaningful Wednesday, he was thrilled. I will send him this too. Take care Abi, have a good day 🥰 xx
Oh Sam, so sorry to hear about your lovely dad and difficult with your mum. Life is bloody hard to navigate. It really helps to have such wise, inquisitive people on here.
Delighted to hear about David’s reaction! His book is full of wisdom and insight. I look forward to reading more. 🙏
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Superb pod AB’s! You keep it real. Be seeing you from New Zealand x
Thank you, Pixie. Much love to NZ. X
I remember when you and your sister spent time with your dad.
No wonder you are feeling out of sorts
I hope you’re ok
Much love 💖
Much love, Trudi ❤️
Yes, I do too Trudi. I think it was around Christmas 2 years ago. Abi spoke about the lovely time she spent with her dad and sister. I was so happy for Abi and it sounded like a new beginning in their relationship. Nothing as strange as family🤷♀️
My dad a very religions man didn't give a shit about me or my brother at an early age 2 & 7 he was in army moved on to another marriage, it doesn't bother me much as I had a lovely step dad , people are so complex selfish if they dont give a shit fuck them off not worth the energy xxxxxx
I am glad you had a lovely stepdad. The pain of not having a family who cared is always tucked away, when it should be obliterated. I wish that I had loving parents in my life but some things are not meant to be. We pick ourselves up and push forward.
We do indeed, and your contribution here helps others in ways you may not know, Jan. Thank you 🙏
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Abs will listen to the pod soon. From what other people are saying, I can relate. I have not spoken to my entire family for decades. Severe, severe, childhood abuse. I do not talk about myself (I prefer to elevate others) but I did write my story here: https://vicparkpetition.substack.com/p/we-were-fearfully-and-wonderfully
"We were fearfully and wonderfully made."
Just reading it now. You are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing this remarkable piece of writing with us. 🙏
Such a sad yet inspiring piece of writing EDAU and what a remarkable come back 🙏❤️
I have just read the part about your family when you were growing up. It was totally horrific and how your extended family did not intervene I cannot comprehend. That you became a successful, loving adult is testimony to you alone. The 4 years of the covid shitshow has knocked us all for six. I have always been the type of person who has questioned everything in life even from when I was a child at school. Family and longtime friends who have dropped me for not taking the jab and not abiding by the ‘rules’ reignited my depression and I am still fighting it. Remember to have come this far we are stronger than we think and you will overcome x
Thanks Jan. If I really wrote about what happened and how bad the violence was no one would read my Substack again. I do not want to traumatise people. I am very lucky to be alive. I suppose the hardest part is that when I left the family no one from the large extended family ever checked up on me or cared about why I left. This always made me feel like I was at fault for what happened as a child, or that I deserved it. Actually, it still does. When I am stressed, even now decades later, my brain says: go back to your abusers. I realise that this is a trauma response because when we are under stress our brain seeks out the familiar.
Thanks for taking the time to read the article.
Yes, I only write about certain parts of my life. If I gave the whole story people would probably think I was either a fantasist or completely crazy. I have enough problems with people who no longer speak to me because of my beliefs and calling out the covid, climate change & trans bs!
I believe you.
That is beyond sad💖
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I have just read your complete SubStack article of December 2023 from this link. I resonate with so much that you write and feel a connection. Since the fake pandemic I have come across people who have now found God and also those that have renewed their faith. My faith has become stronger over the past 4 years and I find it a comfort.
Remember when they banned Russian cats from international cat shows lol https://archive.li/2sSiZ
дураки
У меня есть русская кошка, хаха.
Not a clue what that means! It’s all Greek to me, oops Russian😂
Thank you for the sub. I’m shocked.
Shocked in a nice way I hope😂 I know my sub is not going to change your life but hopefully other people will think about subscribing too.
I was actually thinking about giving up until you subscribed and wrote that message. You have definitely changed my life.
Omg
Sorry to hear about your Dad. Guess even though very old he's still with it enough to do more than the bare minimum in terms of contact. My relationship with my grown up daughter went horribly wrong last year. She sent me a devasting and cruel letter that rubbished my politics (she's woke, doctor, vaccinated, gay) and lifestyle but far worse went back in time and made me feel I hadn't been a good Dad when she was a child. Always been fine with the gay thing but I've failed to embrace the alphabet mafia. Drove me very close to suicide last November. Although currently in NZ, she wants a reconciliation - something I can't currently square with what she put IN WRITING and the near fatal consequences.
Sending you love and resilience for the path ahead. ❤️
Your post brought tears to my eyes. How cruel of your daughter, those hurtful words can never be taken back. I wonder why she wants a reconciliation now. I understand how you must be very wary of a reconciliation when you were so close to thinking about ending your life. I hope you are able to work things out with your daughter x
Sending love to you💙
Another very poignant pod Abi.❤️Sorry to hear about your situation with your dad.It sounds like it could be due to the woman he is with....My lovely dad was Clodagh's and my best friend after mum died in 1985.He had some great girlfriends for years but then got serious with the worst sort of manipulative witch in 2004(She had been married 3 times already and 2 of the husbands were dead)We made a point of getting to see him every week inspite of her efforts to stop him seeing us.They finally married a year before he died in 2016.He'd had some mini strokes throughout 2015 and in the December of that year the psychopathic new wife insisted that he spend Christmas, miles away from us, with her daughter's family who don't even cook.Clodagh is a fantastic cook and he always loved his meals, Sunday's, Easter and Christmas at ours.It's so sad that he died the following May, 3 months after she got him to change his will too.These people do exist and, sadly, it has set us up to be so untrusting but, also, wise to the signs and who to avoid....I think you and your sister should just show up at his house and insist on having some time with him now.🤔🥰🥰
You speak on behalf of me, always. 💖
I hear you Catherine. My dad’s second wife got him to put everything he owned into her 3 kids names so that when he died my brother and I would receive nothing. There are some evil people out there.
It's so strange how such hideous women can manipulate lovely men who have a lot to offer. We know how they do it though, offering basic carnal pleasures. 😒
😔💙
Indeed. Latvia has a long disgusting history.
Just crazy
Abi, I just went on to Twitter this morning and found that someone is following me called ‘Prettier than Abi Roberts’ @abiroberts. Don’t know if it is male or female or if you have seen it. Why would anyone bother to open an account like that🤷♀️
My regular troll can’t leave me be. I would suggest everyone report and block as it’s against the rules to impersonate a real person on twitter. Thanks Jan 🙏
It’s Abi’s regular troll, it followed me too. Just block it Jan. 👊
Please also report if possible ❤️
I’ve deactivated my account and deleted the app.
I may start up from scratch again, but I doubt it.
It’s been a cesspit for months and i don’t get anything out of it anymore.
It served its purpose initially, now it’s just shit!
Welcome to the ex-Twitter gang! 😂❤️
I don’t miss it and I know in my heart of hearts, it’s the best thing for me and my mental health.
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Well done, Trudi. Twatter has become a fast-moving river of sludge with the odd bit of gold floating in it. Even though it felt weird at first, I know I am so much better off not being on there! X
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