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I would like to thank all the kind words sent to me by Abi fans after the sad loss of my GSD Taz, she was put to sleep this morning at home with me and a close friend, as Abi discussed grief the other day it's a difficult and emotional subject. My misses died in 2015 after a short illness which really hit me hard, anyway thankyou again for the support and I'd urge anyone in a similar position to talk to someone instead of holding it all in.

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Stuart I am so sorry to hear about your Taz. Such a Devastating loss and under recognised in this society. The dogs souls are reflected in their beautiful eyes and I felt literally physically sick having to make that signature to put an end to to her suffering. So very hard but you know. Be good to yourself . Thinking of you and check in whenever you feel like it. I got a beautiful poem when we lost our Alfie .

Probably too much just now , it’s called ‘I’m Still Here’ written to us who remain . Much love Stuart

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Heather I've never heard the dogs souls are reflected in their beautiful eyes before, So true and so powerful, Taz was my 5th dog I had her as a rescue dog when she was about 6 months old, 12 and a half years later I had to do the deed. My misses died in 2015 so losing Taz I'm coming home to an empty house again. I was sent a poem after losing my last dog called " crossing the rainbow bridge " talk about floods of tears😭, Thankyou Heather for thinking of us both at this sad time it does mean a great deal to me. Taz and me send you a big ❤

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Thank you Stuart , returned to you both !

Coming home to an empty house , incredibly painful . Shout out here any time you like . The poem is one I got from the pets crematorium , Dignity. They helped enormously. It is laminated and on my desk, should you ever feel like seeing it just say

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My heart aches Stuart, bless you 🥺 as Abi says, we are all here for you and each other.

Poor Taz💔

Sending love to you 💙

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Trudi thankyou so much for your kindness I feel so many emotions at the minute but reading supportive words means a great deal to me, Thankyou so much Trudi.

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Anytime Stuart,

Please don’t think you’re on your own.

To lose your darling wife and now your faithful companion, it must be incredibly difficult.

Sending love, strength and support in abundance 💙💙💙

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Aww Stuart, I'm so sorry for your loss of your beloved pet, no doubt they were a huge comfort for you after you lost your partner, I'm glad you were not alone today, grief is the hardest thing about life, but without that life we wouldn't have had that love and grief is love in disguise. And that never dies ❤️ sending love and 🙏to you xx

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Rachel thankyou for your kind words it means so much to me in my time of great sadness and loss. And you are right grief is love in disguise.. ❤ Thankyou.

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Sending love to you Stuart,a shitty day indeed xx

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I think the word " shitty " sums it up pretty good, I really appreciate your kindness and I hope your day has gone alot better than mine, Thanks Jules..

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So very sorry for your loss Stuart. It's so difficult to do even though you know it is best for them isn't it? I think it was nice that you were at home. My Jack Russell hated the vets, so it would have been good to have that option for him.

Thinking of you Stuart and sending you a big hug xx

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Louise having the vet visit my home was so much less stress for my beloved Taz, the vet Helen kept Taz calm and although its a very sad occassion it went as well as could have been expected. The pick up for cremation had been arranged so I'll receive the ashes back Monday, Taz will be scattered in her local haunts. She's my 5th dog and losing them never gets easier but Taz was 13 and I'd like to think I gave her a good home, Thankyou for the kind words and thoughts Louise❤

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You certainly did give Taz a good home. We are on our third rescue dog and I've had two labradors from pups before that as well as umpteen dogs when I was growing up.

Dogs bring you so much joy and some heartache too and as I'm sure you know, in time you will remember Taz without the pain and sadness you feel now. But as I say, you have given Taz a loving home and you will always have that bond and lovely memories of your time together.

Best wishes to you Stuart xx

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Evening all and hope you’re all ok

Regarding our moral compass, Benjamin was working within an office and there was a female colleague who was being bullied by other office staff.

Benjamin stood up for her in such a way that his life there was made miserable.

Benjamin opted to leave his post but as he did so, he made HR and head office aware of the sexist bullying towards a female member of staff.

I have never been prouder of him, I raised him to become a beautiful human.

The female in question remained friends with Benjamin ( just friends, no motive) until his suicide.

To Jan, I will light my candle for your beautiful Mark on Monday.

I would also like to ask that at 8pm tomorrow night, would you light a candle to show support to those bereaved by suicide.

Tomorrow is world suicide prevention day, many events have been cancelled due to Recent events.

Knowing you’ve lit a candle brings immense comfort.

I am not enforcing it , only do so if you feel it’s right for you.

The unveiling of a suicide memorial quilt which I am a part of has been cancelled until further notice 🙄

To be honest, Benjamin would be laughing as my square is appalling 😂

Apologies if I sounded a bit preachy 🥴

Abi, you deserve a break my love, have a wonderful time and I agree with your friends that it’s time you put yourself first:

As for you going a bit crazy, what do they mean going?... you’re proper bat shit level😂😂😂😂

I’m only joking, we all adore you and are grateful for you 🥰

Have a wonderful weekend everyone, to Stuart and Jan.... we won’t let you fall .

Huge love everyone

Bon voyage Abi😩😩😩

Enjoy 👍😊💖💖💖

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What lovely words Trudi. Your support for everyone in the substack family is second to none and I think you're a wonderful person xx

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Thanks Louise, we are all fabulous 💕

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Thank you Trudi darling for your kind words.. I will be lighting candles as always..

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Dear Jan thinking of you today

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Dear Heather, thank you so much for your kind words... :)

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Hope you are doing Okay Trudi

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I’m okay thanks Heather 💕

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Of course Trudi. 🕯❤️

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Hi Abi, Hi everyone 😊 right firstly...where were all our invites for Greece, bit rude 😉😁

What a weird old day, I had to switch off to it all too, felt a numbness of emotion, alot of thought as to what's to come, it is hard to respect the now King for his appalling treatment of Diana and of course his ties to the wef etc...but it is a sad time of course, and i can understand the outpour of grief , as most people see the Queen and the royals as all good, well maybe not Andrew lol...but when you are an awake person, you know that there is darkness that lurks beneath.

But as the song goes...cause everything's gonna be alright na na na na na na na 😁

Love to all, have a goodun ❤️

Have a wicked time Abs, chill, relax, bit of booze, see you on the flip side 😘

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THANK YOU dearest Abi, for your lovely words, you made me cry, regarding my Mark's anniversary tomorrow 12th September, another awful day..

Have a great holiday ! xxxx

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How are you Jan? 💕

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Hi Trudi, thanks for checking in. Not too bad thanks.. Always a difficult week every year..

I hope you are keeping pretty well, as far as possible..

Catch you soon, love

Jan S xx

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Glad you’re doing okay, I’m okay too 💖💖💖

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Well done, hon... xx

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Abi, I just cannot comprehend the outpouring of grief for the Queen. The Queen is not family to me or a dear friend, she has died at a ripe old age and has had a privileged life. What is there to mourn? I used to admire the Royal Family but with many misdemeanours from various members of the Royal Family I really don’t have any time for them. Your take on Charles is spot on. What a nightmare King he will be.

Enjoy your little Greek island and definitely have a Shirley Valentine moment if you can babe xx

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Enjoy your holiday Abi and we'll look forward to your return. Have a fabulous time xx

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Aww Abi,Greece sounds just the ticket....we will miss you so much and teatime will not be the same 😩 I love Greece,we got married in Crete and used to holiday there every year in a lovely quiet,non touristy part of the island,absolute bliss. Have a fabulous break,chill,clear your head,breathe that lovely sea air and go easy on the ouzo! We will wait for you 🤣

Trudi,candle will be lit 8pm tomorrow. Benjamin really does sound like an absolutely lovely lad,you should be very proud 🥰

Jan,hope Monday goes as ok as it can,sending love to you.

Keep on keeping on everybody. I will miss your comments whilst Abi is away. Xx

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We will just have to continue to comment on this post. 👍💖

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Thank you so much, Jules xxx

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Thankyou Jules, much appreciated 💖💖💖

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GM all, just checking in with everyone, hope you’re all ok 💕

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I hope you are well Trudi. We all seem to be a bit lost without our leader Abi!

I’ve just come back from Greece so thankfully missed a lot of the wall to wall coverage of the death of our Queen . I didn’t switch on the tv at all in Greece. Back in the UK everyone is obsessed with mourning, and there seems to be no other news coverage. I really do not get this mass mourning syndrome. I cannot get emotional about someone who is not family or a friend.

I was so surprised when the Queen got involved in promoting the 💉💉💉calling us 🩸selfish for not wanting an experimental drug that didn’t even do what it said on the tin. I will never forgive or forget. The monarchy no longer means anything to me. End of rant!

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Morning Jan,

Rant away my lovely, and most of us agree with you, wall to wall mourn fest, queuing and coffin watch🙄🙄

Anyway, enough of that, how was your holiday?

I hope you had a wonderful time.

Im doing fine thankyou and I know what you mean about Abi being away.

I’ve not been up to much, weather has most definitely turned a bit chilly

Hope you had lovely weather where you were.

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Aww, hope your husband isn’t kept waiting too long😒

Glad you had a great time.

Imagine Abi trying to get her walks done with all those morons, she’d have lost her shit!😂😂

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Oh yes, I hadn’t thought about Abi on her daily walks to Blackfriars. You are right she would definitely have lost her shit!

My husband has just got a letter from the NHS saying that he has been put on a waiting list and that they are not able to keep to the 18 week government guidelines for testing. He is going to have to pay for the tests privately as cancer waits for no man. It’s life, we are just getting on with it.

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Hi Trudi,

What a lovely email from Abi this morning. It brought a tear to my eye imagining Abi in that beautiful church lighting candles for Faith, Hope and Love for us all. Abi has gone to Crete at the right time, away from the wall to wall mourning!

My holiday in Lefkada was brilliant Trudi. A villa in the mountains with a lovely pool and fantastic views and no neighbours. No restrictions anywhere, some people still wearing masks though and it was 34c!! It was a last minute decision to go to Greece as my husband is awaiting tests to see if his cancer has returned.

Enjoy your long weekend, away from the Queen hysteria. Much Love xx

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The Queen was a very elderly lady. Was she deeply misled and manipulated? We are amongst the very awake. There are loads of highly intelligent and educated people who are still not awake. Mass formation psychosis. I totally get what you are saying but, seriously, she was in her 90s and why should she not be susceptible to mass formation psychosis? The prof emphasises that it is a genuinely psychotic state.

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Abi, have a fab holiday. Love love love Greece. ❤️☀️❤️

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