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Christmas..... I’m with you and many others on that one.

I was driving to my parents this morning, Christmas songs on the radio, for a split second... Well, I won’t say what went through my mind as the tears dampened my cheek.

I took my mum shopping and got the turkey.

I’ll have my Christmas dinner with my parents, then I’ll be on my own for the rest of it.

That’s okay as I’m not very nice to be around anyone at the moment. I’ll grin and bear it for a few hours and then home to watch crap on the telly box.

I will avoid alcohol as I know my head and it wouldn’t end well, but I am having a tiny JD and coke to toast Benjamin.

That poem you read out was really lovely by the way.

Ding dong merrily on high and all that bollux🎄

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Much love darling Trudi, you have the toughest of gigs and are always in my thoughts ❤️

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Sending love to you Trudi 💖

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All the best to you Trudi xx

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Think you pretty much nailed that it’s been quite a year! I kind of shut myself off for 12 months since losing Nick and Chris, kept afloat by this podcast on many occasions Abi and the genuinely lovely people on here. May I wish you all a very Merry Christmas x 🧑‍🎄🌲

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Merry Christmas to you and warm wishes x

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Merry Christmas Suzanne xx

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I can't stand Love Actually either. It has totally ruined the Beach Boys for me. Can't get the old vinyl out without thinking of the trash movie.

Another lovely poem Abi. Will say a prayer for Chris and Jan tomorrow x

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Rubbish film don’t like 4 weddings much either!

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I wonder what sugar coated shit, based on his usual formula, Curtis would write about 'the covid.' 4 liars and a lockdown sounds realistic. I can see Stephen Fry, in a blonde wig, as Johnson. Hancock allegedly had a cunning plan. Maybe Ian Hislop could appear as Chris Whitty.

Play this one at home folks.

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I did like Notting Hill but most of his stuff is syrupy liberal crap

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Yes, I have to admit to being a bit of a closet (now out) Four Weddings fan. Fuckity fuck, the wedding speech about Huge Grant's past girlfriends etc.

Perhaps it's like catchy tunes, they may not be the best constructed but they remain in the mind.

I still think Curtis is a self righteous, preachy (Make Poverty History) twat.

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Deffo! 🤣

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Thank you Jenny

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Yeah if you need a break, you need a break. You do need to look after yourself. Everyone’s been through a lot over last 3 years and you’ve had your share Abbie. Sorry to hear about lovely Jans brother! Everyone have an amazing Christmas and don’t pressure yourself!

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Thank you Alison

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Welcome Jan, have the best Christmas you can and wishing you loads of luck and happiness in the new year x

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Right back at ya xx

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Thank you for being so open and honest with us all Abi. We are here for you and each other always. I will miss you until the new year. Please leave us a note now and then if you feel up to it. Christmas is never the same after a huge loss. There's so much pressure on us all to be merry, bright, organised and happy aside from the financial strain. Thinking of you all over the coming days. Have the best Christmas you can, all of you. I am so happy to have found you all. Take care of yourselves. Love to you all xx ❤️

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Merry Christmas Lesley. We will all get through this with each other on Abi Daily.

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If I take one thing from this year it's yourself Roberts. I honestly never did girl comedians for ever , since wayneyta slob and dame Edna , yes I know.. but I dipped my toe because of de kovid stance and I'll never look back. Truly you are someone human .

merry Christmas abbs and god bless 🎄🙏💙

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Dame Edna - now there was a woman. Well more of a woman than many on the left. I transgress.

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Lovely pod. Sorry you are feeling so low Abs. Christmas is a tough time for sure, I’m really feeling it and have no desire to conform anymore. Steak and chips is our Christmas meal this year. Beautiful poem. You are right Love Actually ruined a great song with such cheese, it happens to all the best tunes Xx

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Yes, Christmas is not all jingle bells

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Hope you got through today ok Jan, anniversaries are always hard xx

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Thank you Jules. I got through the day playing music and drinking vodka. I found a vodka glass by the bed this morning and my iPad for Abi’s podcast. It was wipeout after that and a slight headache this morning😂

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See Jordan enjoying the close company of Doug 🎉 in Bob's latest wonderful tapestry 😁

https://t.me/bobmoran/235

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Hi Abi. Christmas is such a tough time when you've lost loved ones, especially a husband/wife. And when you spoke about your relationship with your father you mentioned about it going back to just card sending. I know all about that with my own family; getting a card poked through the post with no proper contact; it's so shit and such a cop out. But hey, their huge loss!

Anyway, wishing you a blessed Christmas Abs. Loads of love,

Gail ❤️

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Just a note on yesterday's pondering about PTSD, forgetting and not making a fuss, moving on conveniently.

Im so grateful that yourself, the fam and a couple of others with an Audience are like me. We,I think, are the true victim things. Not like victims , but victim things. We just saw the shit, worried, warned, protected those like myself, on the sly. I had to hide my protection from the masks , back , lockdowns abuse doled out to my grandkids that my own family went along with . I had to hide my protection of them because I was treated like a fukin flat earther. Think about it, yeah?

I'm stuck in march 2020 because they won't give me closure. Not apologies, just say lokk tim, dad, son, I'm sorry we fucked you sideways we were wrong. Ffs

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This is stunning Grace ❤️

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That was really gorgeous Grace Tks for sharing!

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Dear Abi thank you for this wonderful pod, so reflective and honest. You are a gem, making us laugh and think deeply about things at the same time. Such a gift. Much love to all the Abi Daily family, a great bunch of people supporting each other. xx

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Dec 20, 2023·edited Dec 20, 2023

This pod absolutely once again spot on this is just the way i am feeling and know many others are atm. I only ever liked Christmas as a kid because it was the only time we had their full attention as they ran an off licence and then later on a Post Office so they( well mainly my mum) was always busy with that, George Michaels December song so reminds me of that because the lyrics are about the same issue with his parents.I worked in retail for 37 years so then started to dislike Christmas and now my parents are gone i just hate this time of year and New Year as my Nan passed away New Years Eve 2018.I find myself reflecting on times and people i loved who have passed, i look at my mums table and chairs( which i kept) and think of all those lovely times and all the people who have sat around it.I know Christmas 2020 will probably go down as one of the worst times ever but we had seen through the bullshit we had everyone round and it was probably one of the most memorable with my mum she loved it,she had her horlicks and i tucked her in bed on Christmas eve bless her makes me cry just remembering it. She overslept Christmas morning and i said to my husband i better go see if she is ok and that she hadn’t passed away in her sleep thankfully she was ok. That sadly was to be my mums “Last Christmas” and i am so thankful we spent it together 🙏🏻xxx

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❤️❤️❤️

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💖💖💖

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Just wondering if you could make a post after tomorrow's pod where we could comment over Christmas and stay in touch? x

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To be honest Abi. Today's podcast resonated with me deeply. I broke free from my parents in the late 90's. After one or two meetings with them a few year later enough was enough. They have never met our daughter & never will. I know that might sound harsh. It's for the better in the long run. I don't even know if my parents are dead or alive. It's not something that keeps me awake at night.

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Jon, I completely get it. I tried to reconcile with my father a couple of times over the years but he was a selfish cruel person. He even requested that I not be told about his death or attend his funeral. When my brother was murdered my father’s only words were “well, Chris always sailed close to the wind”.

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Wow! sometimes we just have to accept that you can’t choose your rellies and move on! Society gives you a standard for parents but sadly many just aren’t cut out for the role!!

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