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Thanks for the shoutout Abi. It’s a great honour and privilege to have been invited on your show. I’ll keep popping in whenever you like and as long as the audience enjoy it. I absolutely love the mix of a bit of philosophy, theology, comedy and banter and that we can ping off anywhere.

It does feel like I’ve known you years but that’s down to your honest, warm, real and open soul. Your warmth and strength of character invites folks to be at ease and to be themselves and it creates the same atmosphere amongst the members of the Abi Daily gang and telegram.

Soz this is a long one but I wanted to tell you how tour pod keeps landing on target in the strangest ways.

As I walked into Tesco just now, I was listening to today’s Abi Daily where you were talking about the ‘naff’ things people can say when someone dies. I was just thinking “oh I hope I don’t come across like a box of tissues from Clinton’s cards when I next hear someone has died”. Just then, someone called my name from the other side of the tills and I saw the grown up son of my neighbour. He ran over to me, grabbed my hand with tears in his eyes and said “my Dad loved you and respected you and he’d want me to tell you, we lost him this morning.” Absolute gut punch. Vince was one of the loveliest warmest guys I’ve ever met. He loved God. He had this twinkle in his eye that those who have walked with the Lord for decades have. He was full of life and we used to chat God and life and DIY in the street. I’ll miss those chats. I shared my experience and love for Vince with his Son and 2 Corinthians 5 came to mind, so I said “he is clothed in glory now and sees his Saviour face to face”. His Son carried on squeezing my hand and we had a precious moment of connection in loss that will stay with me.

Your pod has a strange habit of raising a theme that hits home immediately. And in this case, it somehow framed my mind and heart for an encounter I wasn’t expecting, seconds later. It’s a God thing. Be encouraged.

Blessings

Jonny

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I don't want to piss on anyones fire of hope here, but I notice Peter Gabriel came up. Just for the record, he's a fully paid up member of the The Club of Rome. I need say no more. I sat waiting for all my old music heroes to say something, and then when they did say something it was to announce they will only be playing to Jabbed fans or they said nothing at all. It made me go off all the music I loved. Only now am I able to listen to some of their much older stuff as I have managed to convince myself that they were different back then and somehow the person they have tunred into is some kind of posessed or captured soul.

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Loved that quote from Christina💖

Oh Abs, your celebrant lady had me in stitches, it’s not funny but it kind of is.

When I went to York Crematorium in 2021, just seeing the building made me nearly keel over.

I’ve not been back since Ben’s memorial disc( drain cover) was placed there.

There was a service in progress on the day I went.

If the room had been empty, I probably would’ve gone inside, who knows?

Must’ve felt weird for you 💙.

Bless you 💖

Love to everyone especially Lisa and Natalie, Jules and her mum.

💖💖💖

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My mother died in 2018, followed by my father and brother in 2019. We shared the same gallows humour and the lady at the coop undertakers got it, especially when I asked for a bogof. She knew it was part of how I handled the situation. However just after Mum died, an acquaintance said 'you need to grieve.' I almost said 'you need to fuck off.' People seem to assume everyone should behave in a way they've been told is best (by some shrink in her case) but emotions can't be switched on and off like a tap.

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Hope all goes well for Tom's mum tomorrow. Be thinking of them tomorrow xx

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Great TNT show today. Jonny was excellent.

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I deleted my first comment as it was too long winded .. I wanted to tell you my daughter was in Paris this weekend and walking down the Rue de l’universite towards the Eiffel Tower there are hundreds and hundreds of pictures of vaccine dead and injured ! 🇫🇷 . Far cry from the wall of hearts we have in London x

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Great pod today Abi, made me laugh out loud at the end when you were reminding yourself not to use zee accent. Sad to hear you hit a low patch though, but understandable given your visit to the crematorium. When you were talking about the celebrant lady there the words that sprang to mind from your description were 'trite' and 'twee'. I'm sure she meant well but did sound a bit of an NPC, with little depth or empathy, perhaps one of the people Francis wrote about recently with no inner monologue. Also possibly someone who accepts everything at face value.

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Abi your conversation with the celebrant was so relatable and you did well.

I would have started by grilling her about the rubbery clots, then I would have told her about the US DOD. In my case that offer for 'grief group' would likely be a direction to a psych facility.

Thanks for sharing - the eternal struggle of the redpiller - there is always so much personal grief. That's what people don't see.

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Abi how brave and kind of you when you tolerated the cellophaned bouquet grief response from Chapel lady. An Abigail’s party moment if ever there was one and I just knew she was going to say …. “Oh bless…” Your “Hey Hum “ moment following the truthbomb drop was so relatable and hilarious. Mike Leigh should be so lucky.

Hope you had a relaxing evening , it was a lot.

I tried to find the Cost of Loving Poem but to no avail, please post author!

🥰💖

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I love an old saying, my dad when he went to the pub would say. I'm going down the cut to see if it's raining. People from South London will get that.😂

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I had never heard of Craig Campbell, a very interesting, knowledgeable guy. He could certainly talk😂no chance of an awkward silence with him.

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Swiss-German 🇨🇭, you have to get the accent right 😁

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From yesterday Abi... Mandela effect...’Sex in the City’. Yes that’s how we all remember it... but apparently it’s ‘Sex AND the City’ !!! Really. Wtf 😳😂

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I cannot find John Waters on SubStack, either under his name or ‘Unchained’ as you mentioned on your show Abi.

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