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Nov 9, 2022·edited Nov 9, 2022

I have a limp after a bad motorcycle accident in 2015, ( won't mention my other limp) I had one leg slightly shortened to help fuse my femur back together after 3 failed attempts. At least I have a leg,, as for cancer my misses went into hospital with a chest infection in November 2015, she'd been in 10 days or so and whilst visiting she said " I've got cancer but don't worry they said I'll see Christmas, Bombshell..!!! She said it so casual I didn't know how to react, she passed away on the 8th of December and was cremated on the 23rd 2 days before Christmas. Needless to say I haven't celebrated Christmas since. I wrote her a poem 2 days after she died which is tattooed on my leg, ( the good one) her ashes are with me and I kiss them before bed every night, The last line of the poem reads " Goodnight my love for now at least for when we meet I'll be at peace " I hope we meet❤ Babs..

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My heart goes out to you Stuart. Sending you love and hugs. xx

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Wendy thankyou so much.

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Bless you and Babs Stuart… I’m so sorry. My heart is breaking 💔🙏🏼

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Stuart, that is so very sad. Both your bad accident and then losing your wife so suddenly. My heart goes out to you xx

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Thanks Jan I can safely say I've had better years.

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Oh Stuart,that is so sad. You will meet again. Sending hugs xx

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Thanks Jules ..

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I closed my Facebook account last December, it was one of my better moves, just wish that I had done it sooner. However, I spend too much time on Twitter. I feel compelled to engage with people on Twitter as it is impossible to do so with my family. SubStack is a lifeline for me and of course so much more personal.

Grief is so hard to deal with and everyone deals with it differently. After my brother was murdered in America, I was distraught. It took years before I could even talk about my brother without breaking down. Now without my brother in my life it feels like I have a wound that won’t completely heal and I know that will never change.

On a lighter note, are there any SubStack people going to the GETTR sponsored comedy show in London on 21 November?

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So sorry about your brother Jan. That is truly awful. Sending love ❤️

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Thank you Janice x

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Bloody love these podcasts. Thanks Abi! 🥰xx

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Loved the pod today Abi and totally get the grief thing.

The man with the limp, reminds me of a poem I was signposted to. It’s called A pair of Shoes.

I’ve said this so many times, but I love hearing about Terry, the love is just beautiful 😍

The reindeer thing does sound magical so will have to have a look at that.

Love to all

💖💖💖

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The most meaningful Wednesday yet xx ❤️💔

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Abi, when you’re talking I am chiming right in with my two cents… talking away to my phone like you can hear me 😆 I’m like.. damn straight Abs.. oh Abs I’d have blasted that devil wishing death on children.. bloody hell, that’s just sickened me. And this goes on throughout the whole pod haha! You are my daily therapy. Another great listen! Thank you ❤️xo Love to all and g’nite 👋💕

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Same for me Janice. I’m usually in the kitchen listening to Abi, cooking dinner with a large G&T. I shout back answers to Abi, swear and laugh even though she cannot hear me! I look forward to Abi’s daily rants, they help keep me sane 💖

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I haven't been able to listen to this podcast yet but I will do later. Just quickly reading the comments is very humbling. To have gone through what dome of you have and still be standing! You must be the strongest of the strong. Take my hat off to you!

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Love to Stuart x x

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Bless you Abi and God bless Terry. It’s a tough gig heading into this shit show so soon after losing your mum and Terry...... and November is a shit month at the best of times. There’s nothing wrong with having a day under the covers,a little Columbo and feeling sorry for yourself. I know you will get back up and carry on this fight,it’s what we are here to do and we need you,your rants and your wall of cunts. It has got to the point though where it’s extremely exhausting living in this parallel universe.....we all feel it. Lovely pod btw,sending much love,you’ve got this 💪 and we’ve got you xx

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Yes Jules, both the low level anxiety we feel, and living in this parallel universe is exhausting.

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100% Jan 😘

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Thankyou Janice for your kind words..

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