Great to have you back Abi. I totally understand the need to step back from social media and everything that can weigh you down mentally, I’ve been so quiet on my social media and on here for many months (despite always listening) but life had become so overwhelming with very real issues and it was the only way to keep my sanity.
I did watch Baby Reindeer and felt that it was an excellent portrayal of what goes on in real life, as you said it’s not just about actors playing a great part but also the issues and complexities of sexual abuse and the lifelong consequences for the survivor. Having worked with survivors of sexual abuse for decades I can tell you that the criminal justice system does not make it easy for victims to get the perpetrator to court, the police will take a report of abuse seriously and build a case which is sent to the CPS who decide if the case is strong enough to go to court. It’s the CPS not the Police who decide this. Many of my clients didn’t even get their case to court and many who did have had horrendous experiences being cross examined, believe me it’s very traumatic. Many survivors won’t report for fear of not being believed, for example in Baby Reindeer the victim went back to see the perpetrator some time after the abuse had ended, if this was raised in court it would cast doubt on the credibility of the victim as the defence would question why? Members of the jury would not necessarily understand the psychology of the abused person and it could be seen as consensual - yes it’s crazy but that is the disgusting way victims of abuse are treated. Don’t forget the man in charge of the CPS when Jimmy Savile was getting away with it was the one and only Sir Keir Starmer! It’s a shame the viewers didn’t get to find out what happened to the abuser, hopefully if he is still walking free the programme will give other people the strength and courage to come forward and report him because you’re absolutely right there will be other people who have been abused by this man and in cases like this there’s strength in numbers!
So, despite me being quiet for months that subject really got me going!
Much love to everyone especially Lisa and Debbie and of course her dear husband.
False accusations don't help real victims and so establishing the truth will, inevitably, magnify the crime for the abused. Whenever the veneer of those who have climbed the slippery pole of power starts to wear thin, they move on to ruin lives elsewhere. I am in no doubt there are dark forces at work in positions of power and Starmer should and, I believe, must have known about Saville.
You’re absolutely right Brian, there is definitely a system within the establishment that is protecting the worst offenders. Money and power offers these abusers access to the most vulnerable, sometimes I wish I didn’t know the things I have discovered but it’s important to keep talking about it.
Maybe one day the truth will out. Things seem to be getting worse with boundaries of decency being re defined in favour of these despicable excuses for humanity.
In 2019/20, I was sitting my English GCSE, we were all asked what our writing methods were.
Many said they planned the beginning of, middle and end etc.
Me, I just write off the top of my head, give me a topic and I’ll write about it. They looked at me like I had 2 heads, the tutor said i was an exception the rule and that not many can do that.
I love writing and I miss writing dissertations .
I’ve not had much inspiration to write anything. One day, I may write about what happened, but that’s a long way off.
Baby Reindeer, I switched it off halfway through the second episode. Not for me.
Good to have you back Abi. Great advice about stepping back and taking time out when things become overwhelming. Miri is right, have boundaries and don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to people. Loved your description of Humza😂 no stone left unturned there!
Baby Reindeer is definitely not on my viewing list.
Good to hear from you Abs! Baby reindeer is just awful that drug scene has scarred me forever, why would he do that? I think I must have had a sheltered life in my own little bubble of joy. Up until 2020 then it all went downhill. I found him to be always the victim.. and yes is that TV writer in prison ?! Wow just so weird how people were celebrating the series on social media x
Glad you took a much needed break, we all need to be kind to ourselves. Totally agree with perfection being the enemy of good, it’s often the case that timely is better than highly polished.
Great to have you back. As you say, sometimes you just got to step back from the shitshow. Never heard of Baby Reindeer. Good job mentioned on the pod or I might have googled it thinking it was a wildlife documentary and got quite a shock... :) How do these monsters keep getting away with this stuff.
Another great podcast as usual.I don't go on Twitter much and try to listen to stuff that has a positive msg with common sense, not just doom and gloom.That is also why I don't go onto alternative channels like Rumble much now.
I'm not sure if I procrastinate, I'll have to think about 😃 Haven't watched Baby reindeer but from your summary agree, this creature should be banged up..
My old boss was very hard but his discipline taught me the value of working to achieve, no matter how sorry for myself, I felt. This gave me the work ethic that allowed me to keep going with my own business, despite numerous occasions when I wanted to pack it in. Mind you I now have very high blood pressure!
Abi, I think you are absolutely right about the impact on those of us who have woken up. I will never feel the same again. Never.
Great to have you back Abi. I totally understand the need to step back from social media and everything that can weigh you down mentally, I’ve been so quiet on my social media and on here for many months (despite always listening) but life had become so overwhelming with very real issues and it was the only way to keep my sanity.
I did watch Baby Reindeer and felt that it was an excellent portrayal of what goes on in real life, as you said it’s not just about actors playing a great part but also the issues and complexities of sexual abuse and the lifelong consequences for the survivor. Having worked with survivors of sexual abuse for decades I can tell you that the criminal justice system does not make it easy for victims to get the perpetrator to court, the police will take a report of abuse seriously and build a case which is sent to the CPS who decide if the case is strong enough to go to court. It’s the CPS not the Police who decide this. Many of my clients didn’t even get their case to court and many who did have had horrendous experiences being cross examined, believe me it’s very traumatic. Many survivors won’t report for fear of not being believed, for example in Baby Reindeer the victim went back to see the perpetrator some time after the abuse had ended, if this was raised in court it would cast doubt on the credibility of the victim as the defence would question why? Members of the jury would not necessarily understand the psychology of the abused person and it could be seen as consensual - yes it’s crazy but that is the disgusting way victims of abuse are treated. Don’t forget the man in charge of the CPS when Jimmy Savile was getting away with it was the one and only Sir Keir Starmer! It’s a shame the viewers didn’t get to find out what happened to the abuser, hopefully if he is still walking free the programme will give other people the strength and courage to come forward and report him because you’re absolutely right there will be other people who have been abused by this man and in cases like this there’s strength in numbers!
So, despite me being quiet for months that subject really got me going!
Much love to everyone especially Lisa and Debbie and of course her dear husband.
False accusations don't help real victims and so establishing the truth will, inevitably, magnify the crime for the abused. Whenever the veneer of those who have climbed the slippery pole of power starts to wear thin, they move on to ruin lives elsewhere. I am in no doubt there are dark forces at work in positions of power and Starmer should and, I believe, must have known about Saville.
You’re absolutely right Brian, there is definitely a system within the establishment that is protecting the worst offenders. Money and power offers these abusers access to the most vulnerable, sometimes I wish I didn’t know the things I have discovered but it’s important to keep talking about it.
Maybe one day the truth will out. Things seem to be getting worse with boundaries of decency being re defined in favour of these despicable excuses for humanity.
Glad you’re back and doing better.
In 2019/20, I was sitting my English GCSE, we were all asked what our writing methods were.
Many said they planned the beginning of, middle and end etc.
Me, I just write off the top of my head, give me a topic and I’ll write about it. They looked at me like I had 2 heads, the tutor said i was an exception the rule and that not many can do that.
I love writing and I miss writing dissertations .
I’ve not had much inspiration to write anything. One day, I may write about what happened, but that’s a long way off.
Baby Reindeer, I switched it off halfway through the second episode. Not for me.
*exception to the rule
Oh, and my exam was cancelled due to the shit show.
I love exam conditions, so I was annoyed that I missed out.
My annoyance was felt more to the kids who were denied the exams. 😒
Good to have you back Abi. Great advice about stepping back and taking time out when things become overwhelming. Miri is right, have boundaries and don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to people. Loved your description of Humza😂 no stone left unturned there!
Baby Reindeer is definitely not on my viewing list.
Good to hear from you Abs! Baby reindeer is just awful that drug scene has scarred me forever, why would he do that? I think I must have had a sheltered life in my own little bubble of joy. Up until 2020 then it all went downhill. I found him to be always the victim.. and yes is that TV writer in prison ?! Wow just so weird how people were celebrating the series on social media x
Glad you took a much needed break, we all need to be kind to ourselves. Totally agree with perfection being the enemy of good, it’s often the case that timely is better than highly polished.
Glad to see you back Abi. Yes Baby Reindeer is not for me. I think we need films and programmes to lift us up, not watching stuff like that.
Great to have you back. As you say, sometimes you just got to step back from the shitshow. Never heard of Baby Reindeer. Good job mentioned on the pod or I might have googled it thinking it was a wildlife documentary and got quite a shock... :) How do these monsters keep getting away with this stuff.
Another great podcast as usual.I don't go on Twitter much and try to listen to stuff that has a positive msg with common sense, not just doom and gloom.That is also why I don't go onto alternative channels like Rumble much now.
I'm not sure if I procrastinate, I'll have to think about 😃 Haven't watched Baby reindeer but from your summary agree, this creature should be banged up..
My old boss was very hard but his discipline taught me the value of working to achieve, no matter how sorry for myself, I felt. This gave me the work ethic that allowed me to keep going with my own business, despite numerous occasions when I wanted to pack it in. Mind you I now have very high blood pressure!
Thanks Grace.